DON'T MAKE ME ANGRY 2
PROGRAMME 2: JAMIE
ACTIVITIES
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Jamie and his family tell Rachel about the bullying at
school
Clip 1: 02:17 –
03:00
- In: (Rachel) 'So they've called you "child molester".'
- Out: (Jamie) 'I don't remember most of the past 'cos I try to forget it.' (Rachel) 'It's that bad?'
Think about a time when you were bullied at school. How did you feel? What options did you have for sorting it out? Imagine what it would be like if you didn't manage to make many friends at school. What advice would you give to somebody in that situation?
Rachel works with Jamie about his anger
Clip 2: 11:33
– 13.05
- In: (Rachel, as Jamie comes into room) 'He already mentioned that he thought of his anger as an angry box.'
- Out: (Rachel) '…so that he was in more control of the things that he did.'
Sometimes it's a good idea to make or draw something that physically represents an emotion. In Jamie's case, the black box represents his pain and anger and he puts into it all the things that make him behave in the way he hates. What would you put in your black box? How could you start to make it smaller?
Rachel, Jamie and his father talk
Clip 3: 15:33
– 17:25
- In: (Jamie) ' I suppose… Yeah, I'm sorry for… 'cos it did go very over-the-top.'
- Out: (Rachel – end of scene in bedroom) '…Dad being able to say to you.'
Look at part of the dialogue between Jamie and his Dad. We have just learnt that Jamie finds it very hard to apologise.
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Jamie |
I suppose… Yeah, I'm sorry for… 'cos it did go very over the top…. So I'm sorry for that really, yeah. It's just like… 'Cos it's always gone over the top. |
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Dad |
It just came from nowhere. |
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Jamie |
Yeah. |
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Dad |
I didn't know what I'd done. I know you said that you were in a mood, but I wasn't aware that you were or that I'd put you in a bad mood or anything. It's nice to hear because I felt that was a proper apology rather than the… Normally, you just go, 'Well, sorry (gruff voice).' |
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Jamie |
I was pissed off. I wanted to show that I was in pain. |
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Dad |
Why were you hurting? I didn't know that you were hurting. (Louder) I can't help if I don't know there's something wrong. |
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Jamie |
I feel uncomfortable telling both mum and dad things. The only way dad finds out the way I feel at the moment is when I get really angry. |
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Dad |
The tone of voice would make a huge difference. |
Make a list of the good and bad things about this dialogue. Who do you feel is making the greater effort? Earlier on in the programme, Jamie's mum said that his dad (a builder) had hoped for a boy who would help with DIY, but it didn't turn out like that. How do you think this has affected the family relationship? How do you think Jamie feels when later in this clip his dad says he's proud of him? If you were locked into a bad relationship, what steps could you take to change it?
