Synopsis:

This programme looks at bereavement and grief through the eyes of young people who have personally experienced the death of someone close to them. It examines their emotional responses to death, including guilt, anger, aggressive behaviour, insomnia, depression and self-harm, and offers advice and guidance on how to cope with loss. The programme also highlights a number of organisations and groups which exist to help young people deal with grief.

Teachers should familiarise themselves with any policy and guidelines that apply and have a strategy for managing the situation where a student is upset.

00.00 – 01.14

Natasha and Iain’s Stories
Natasha, close to mother, created fuss before school. Parents harassed, car crash, mother dies.

Iain misses everyday things about relationship with father who died of cancer of the testes and penis. Devastated his father didn’t tell him about illness.

Natasha – guilt, anger, self-harm, depression. Now has ‘stupid’ scars.

Iain – angry, aggressive, depressed. Assaulted teacher. Expelled. Police record.
Natasha met Iain at bereavement camp which helped her. Iain now understands loss better but aggressive behaviour unchanged.

09.4 – 13.09

Sophie’s Story
Sophie’s mother died from cancer. Biggest shock – life goes on. Wanted to hide, then threw herself into school activities. Tried not to think. Tired, not sleeping. Art helped and counselling. Now – if chance to do something, goes for it.

13.10 – 23.45

The Pedro Project
Kirsten devastated by death of fun-loving fiancé Peter, killed in car crash returning from rave.

Ryan remembers good-time guy and disbelief and shock at hearing he was dead.

Kirsten visited body unsure what to expect. Felt guilty at being alive.

The ‘ghosties’ where Peter’s ashes are scattered. Ryan describes how funeral reflected Peter’s ideas: dance music, bright coffin and clothes.

Tabitha describes setting up The Pedro Project to help cope with sudden death in absence of support. Kirsten misses everyday things about Peter. Tries to live from day to day. Campfire discussions, clubbing.